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experience teaches

There’s a big danger lurking around in the motivational/personal development industry. There’s a not-too-talked about disease which plagues entrepreneurs on their path to success. A monster which can eat up your potential, all the while falsely making you think you’re growing and achieving things. It’s called over motivation. It’s when you’re addicted to reading self-help books or blogs, addicted to watching motivational videos all day long, addicted to listening to your life coach. Five hours a day, several days in a row. The problem with this is that you feel like you’re growing. You’re duped into thinking you’re becoming a better person. You’re not. You’re probably wasting valuable time. Time which could be used to actually do things. Don’t get me wrong. A certain amount of daily motivation is very useful to get you pumped up for work. To start the engine. But don’t forget this very simple aspect:

Words Don’t Teach. Ever.

I truly believe words can’t teach you anything. Nada. Zero. Zip. Nunca. Ever. - you hopefully do see the paradox of this article, right?
Only life experience teaches. There isn’t a single book, video, audio seminar which can actually give you any information. You can only give information to yourself. Those mediums should only serve as a catalyst for your own inner dialogue.
You can obviously learn stuff from reading books or watching videos. But that works at a conscience level. You can rationally understand different things and learn from what others have lived. But that doesn’t mean you’ll apply what you’ve learned. In order to really learn something, you need to internalize it. Feel it. Bring that information at the intuition level. That’s when you’ll consistently apply that knowledge. And the best way to internalize new knowledge is to live it. Actually go through it. Immerse yourself in that experience.
Think about it. How did you learn to walk, write, read or talk? You emulated somebody else. You did what they did. You made it your own. That’s how you start owning a skill. That’s exactly why going to a personal development seminar will have a much stronger impact on you than simply watching a recording of it. I’ve read dozens of N.L.P. books, but until I actually started practicing it with my friends, I never realized just how little I knew about it. I’ve read hundreds of books on how to make decisions when running your own business. But still I made countless errors when faced with a real-world situations. Coincidentally, that’s why I think college is a waste of time.

I forgot almost every book I’ve read

And I’m not ashamed to say so. Granted, I do have a lousy memory. And I take no effort in the direction of trying to improve it. That’s because I know that all the information I ever came in contact with is buried somewhere in my mind. In the subconscious probably. That’s because I’ve lived almost all my knowledge. I’ve stopped myself from only doing the reading part. I’ve stopped only watching seminars. I’ve started acting on knowledge more.
Once you start doing more, you’ll feel less need for validation. Less need to read the next self-help book or the next biography of some successful CEO. You won’t need to. You’ll spend your time actually learning from your own mistakes and accomplishments. That means you get instant internalization and direct feedback from your environment. That’s why the habit of analyzing your day before sleep is super-important. Getting into the ritual of criticizing yourself, your actions, your day, etc. is crucial if you are to grow as a person. You need to be your own master. Educate yourself by analyzing yourself. Be self-sufficient.

I personally am crazy about learning from my own experiences. I need it. It’s a drug. It’s the gift that keeps on giving. All my experiences get recorded and stored in my subconscious. My divine subconscious then helps me make better decisions by gently talking to me, in my own voice. By being relaxed, trusting my gut and my intuition, I can then hear my own voice anytime I want. I love it.
The only way I’ll ever be great is by having a great mind. Without getting to religious, I believe the mind transcends space and time. It’s the safest place to store all my gold treasures.

Why would you want to store yours anywhere else?

top 12 ways to fly into space

Flying was mankind’s ultimate dream for millennia. For the past century, we’ve been perfecting this “unrealistic dream”. It’s incredible to think how far a monkey with a big brain (e.g. humanity) has come. We’re now able to fly like the birds. Not only that, we can go in outer space, beating the birds at their own game. And it’s all thanks to our intelligence and self-belief.
If we didn’t think we could do it, we never would have! I’ve posted this Will Smith quote in an earlier article, but it just fits so perfectly here. Here it is again:

It’s unrealistic to think you’re going to bend a piece of metal and fly people over an ocean in that metal. That’s unrealistic. But fortunately, the Wright Brothers and others didn’t… didn’t believe that!”

Yes Will you’re right. And we’ve come a long way since the Wright Brothers. Believing in ourselves brought us closer to the Sun. Being unrealistic changed reality! And ever since we’ve touched the clouds, we’ve be creating more and more complex ways of soaring. Here’s the TOP 12 ways to fly, shown to you from the point of view of the people (and animals) doing the flying! Remember, we are all the same. The people in these videos are exactly like you. Maybe with just a pinch more of self-belief, but that’s easily attainable. Watch in fullscreen, and then try to be negative about your true potential! Try and tell me there’s something you can’t accomplish!

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If you’re into self-development, if you’re an entrepreneur, an optimist or even just the proud owner of those biological hearing devices called ears, you must have heard the saying “Thoughts Create Things” numerous times. I’m pretty sick of it myself. I’m sick of it to the point I’ve actually unsubscribed from Mike Dooley’s Notes from the Universe newsletter. I’m sick of it, to the point I can’t show The Secret to one more person (after watching it about 1587 times) without feeling I’m about to puke. That’s also partly because of the constant idiotic reactions I get from people who first hear about the concept known as “the law of attraction”. Napoleon Hill must be turning in his grave.

But this article is not about the law of attraction or positive thinking. Don’t get me wrong, I resonate and believe in almost everything that concept stands for. I believe in the ideas presented in the The Secret. But I’m not going to talk about it. Nor am I going to talk about Christian, Hebrew or Islamic belief systems. This is not an article about religion.

I’m going to talk about your inner thoughts and your most inner beliefs. I’m going to talk about how you should decide what you believe in this life. I’m going to show you how important it is to choose your beliefs. How to choose your thoughts and create your own, personal, subjective and hugely beneficial belief system. The things you believe and the ideas you have about the world really shape your… well… world. Read on.

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There’s a brilliant question I kept asking myself back in the day. I truly didn’t know what approach I should take. I kept on wondering if those rich bastards I saw on the Forbes list were simply lucky. Could wealth be the result of uncontrollable variables such as birthplace, family heritage, the state of the economy or genetic makeup? Or maybe those guys had some sort of esoteric, secret knowledge which I didn’t have access to. Some occult secret. I decided I had to find out. I tried a lot of stuff. A lot of get rick quick schemes. I researched the entire “make money online” niche.

I tried Poker and I failed. I tried affiliate marketing and I failed. I tried PPC websites and failed. I tried creating an e-commerce site and I … well, you get the picture. There was a lot of failing going on.

Now, let’s get something right, straight from the get-go. I don’t consider myself a rich individual. But I know I’m entitled to write this article, simply because compared to a lot of folks, I am “rich”. I can afford almost anything I want. I can stop working at any time and my income will not suffer and I have a lot of other so-called “rich” friends. I have no boss, never had a real job and I make my own schedule. I don’t really have to work. When I do want to work, I do so from coffee shops, from my office or from home. I’m 23.

I practically do whatever the f*** I want and I make enough money to live a very comfortable life.

I’m writing this because I can tell you exactly how you can enjoy the same freedom. It’s a two-step process. First there’s imagination and then there’s guilt. Read on.

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Here’s a question every entrepreneur and businessman out there should ask. I know that sex might be a taboo topic and this is a business/motivational blog, but believe me, this topic ties in with business immensely. So considering I sometimes deal with unusual topics such as the fear of death, I think I should also tackle sex drive and the equilibrium needed to control your sexual nature.

Now, this is a very important question to answer if you are one who wants to dominate other people, be a good negotiator or a good entrepreneur. In fact, if you want to create almost anything in life (music, paintings, dancing, writing or anything else involving a creative process), it’s crucial to first learn how to dominate your inner force. In ancient times, this was also known as controlling the serpent. I’m not going to go into ancient symbolism and esoterism. I’m not going to talk about Kundalini or any of the other stuff I know for a fact to be true.
Suffice to say, this topic of sexual control is present in the book of Genesis and all the other major religious texts of humankind. And now I’m going to break it down in simple, easy to follow steps. Hold on to your pants, this is a big topic. Let’s get going.

do-not-fear-death

My posts usually deal with entrepreneurship, making money and motivation. I’ve decided to write about death, because I think the irrational fear of death is a plague which can really subtract from the quality of your life. It’s a topic every human being should tackle and there aren’t enough guides on how to deal with this properly. First off, fear in and of itself is not a bad thing. It can sometimes be useful. Fearing lions can keep you alive if you’re out on a Safari. Fearing heights can keep you from doing things like this or this. But still, fearing death is totally bonkers. Some people develop phobias when thinking about what happens after death. That’s crazy. You should not fear death. Let me explain why.

“I do not fear death. I had been dead for billions and billions of years before I was born, and had not suffered the slightest inconvenience from it.”
Mark Twain

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Late this afternoon, I found myself sitting in a McDonald’s on the outskirts of Bucharest, dangerously munching away at my Chicken McNuggets. I was furious and I was taking it all out on those tasty deep-fried, carcinogenic pieces of chicken breast. Furious, partly because I didn’t eat all day and partly because the guys at Lexus are the slowest bunch of vertebrates known to man. It took them 2 hours to replace 2 key batteries.
Sitting there, visibly bothered by the unending shouts of the kitchen staff and the noise which they insist on calling ‘”house music” coming from the speakers, my sight was taken by something giant. Enormous. Pretty darn big. Something I haven’t seen before. Ever. It wasn’t another planet. Not a plane. Not even a fat giant mutant pigeon. It was a man. A damn fat one.

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Early this morning, I found myself in one of the biggest Eastern European malls, listening to the sound of rapidly splashing water coming from an artificial waterfall and the beat from Nóubliez Jamais completing the somewhat surreal scene. Sitting at my tiny table with my laptop and furiously consuming way too many calories (McDonald’s french fries + 8 KFC Crispy Strips), I was feeling pretty alone in the giant mall.

Suddenly, a Gucci dressed, Hublot wearing, Louis Vuitton Evasion “sunglass-ing” individual passed me by. He was pushing his over-aged son in a baby stroller while simultaneously checking out the restaurants. Finally, he sat down at the most expensive one, and started eating shrimp.
I thought to myself: “There’s a rich mofo. Good for him.”

At that precise moment, my chair was hit by someone’s cleaning mop. She was a young, dark-haired, gipsy girl with a pair of infectious brown eyes. The sad face, bad make-up and forehead scar didn’t honor her natural beauty. She was busy cleaning the floor, totally disregarding the surrounding commotion.
I thought to myself: “Her parents must be really poor. What an unfair life.”

But then I realized, I was thinking about this entire situation incorrectly. It’s weird that after so much success conditioning, reading about personal development, going to seminars, talking to innovators, leaders and multimillionaire entrepreneurs, my first instinct when seeing an unhappy, poor person is to blame his or her parents. Or even worse, life in general.

I guess facts just refuse to get through my thick skull. What are these facts you ask? Let me explain them by presenting the 4 pillars of success.

Yes it is ending. There’s no need to pack your bags, there isn’t even enough time. You need to start running now,  never stop and continue to increase your speed just to be able keep up with it all. The world we’ve grown up knowing will never be the same.

If you could fast-forward to 50 years from now and see yourself, you’ll probably seem like an alien from outer space. Our “Old World” is done. Here comes the New World.

And here’s why.

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For those of you who don’t know, the Lannister family is the most powerful family in the best-seller book series and hit HBO TV series “Game of Thrones“.
Actually, both in the books and in the TV series, often times you’ll hear the phrase:

Rich As A Lannister

The phrase is meant to allude to House Lannister’s immense wealth. The Head of the House, Tywin Lannister, is the prototype for the “mercenary” style entrepreneur.
Recently, he was ranked #12 on Forbes Fictional 15 List, so he’s a very rich individual.
The richest in Westeros (the Game of Thrones World) for sure. He’s an individual every businessman out there should study. And as I have made myself a student of greatness, I have been watching the Head Lion (Lannisters have a Lion as their House Sigil) and indeed the entire Lannister family for a while now.

Bloomberg Billionaires

You should know by now that I love writing about extreme wealth and billionaires. But the truth is, those articles are a bit too much sometimes. Happily, I’m not all cliché-driven, so you’ll also find a different perspective here, alongside the normal, beaten path of understanding. I like to mix it up.

That’s why I also talk about billionaires failing and success quotes being useless.

This is one of those articles. Let me explain.

I’ve been watching a lot of videos lately. Billionaires talking about how normal mortals like us can follow in their path and acquire an obscene amount of wealth. Here’s an example.

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This isn’t a “How To” post. It’s a bit too late for that. It’s almost 3 AM here in Bucharest, but I’ve decided to post a quick update to all my followers. As some of you know, I don’t just blog about business, I actually walk the walk and run different businesses.

The latest big business I’ve created is e-redus.ro, a top daily deal site here in Romania. I’ve sold it to Mircea Popa, a local businessman, worth a few tens of millions.  The entire process is almost over and I’m pretty exhausted by it all, to be honest.

I’m going to write a few thoughts about what happened. If you’re Romanian, you can also read this Wall-Street article about it, and come back here for some backstage info.

Leadership-image

You need a strong heart, a stronger will and an unshakable belief in order to deliver a great speech. You words must be firm. Your entire being must be congruent with what you’re saying, otherwise the public will notice your uncertainty. Above all, you need an ideal, a goal, an underlying quest. All of the leaders below fought for different causes, for different ideals, but the common trait they all share is belief.

Such strong belief, they were wiling to die for it. What remains beyond the realm of possibility, when a person has such a strong belief? Its manifestation through a powerful speech can send human beings to the Moon, liberate nations, inspire graduates and tear down seemingly everlasting walls and separations.

Floyd Mayweather is a hell of a fighter. Last night, he rumbled with Robert Guerrero, a top contender, with a record of 31 wins and only one defeat.

But this article isn’t about boxing, it’s about confidence. This is about self-belief and becoming a champion in any sport, including business. In his interviews, Floyd Mayweather often says that he is “blessed by God”. That sounds like a crazy concept, a crazy thing to say. But the thing is, Floyd really believes it. And it’s the power of that belief that sustains him.

Evolution

Creating a business is though. In fact, living is tough. For the majority of people alive today, living is really though. Average life expectancy is just around 70-80 years worldwide. Here’s a chart showing average life expectancy in different parts of the world:

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It might seem that’s a low number. And living conditions worldwide aren’t that better either. Most of the countries in the world resemble my home country of Romania. Here, 7 out of 10 people live in poverty. No running water, no toilets and surely no Internet.

Star Wars Jedi

No matter what business you’re in or what product you’re selling (even if you are selling yourself!) you need a sales team. You need people with phones glued to their ears, constantly scouting for new leads. You need obedient leaders, positioned as sellers, to influence your customers and the rest of the team.

The Reality Distortion Field

Here’s a Steve Jobs reference for you. The RDF (Reality Distortion Field) is a term invented by Bud Tribble, who worked for Apple back in 1981, for describing Steve Jobs’s ability to convince anyone of anything, no matter how far-fetched the idea initially seemed. RDF stands for strong, sometimes delusional belief which basically rubs off on the people who are listening.

 

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